Sunday, 30 December 2012

Going without make up. Bare faced Freedom.

GoingWithout Makeup:
 Bare-faced Freedom



Considering I own such a lot of make up and talk so passionately about the subject, people are always surprised at how infrequently I wear it. There is something ever so liberating about going bare faced, and here's why.

As a teenager I definitely felt self conscious and wore make up to improve the way I look but I'd say that it was as much of a social norm habit. It wouldn't occur to me NOT to wear make up. And I wore a lot of it. I was your quintessential bleach blonde extensions, orange bodied, too much bronzer teenager. 

When I was 19 I met an Australian guy and decided to move to Perth with him. I would straighten my hair every day, wear my extensions and go around wearing my normal face of make up (foundation, concealer, bronzer, blusher, eyeliner, mascara and lip gloss). However, I started to notice that none of my new female friends did the same. Don't get me wrong, they were highly glamorous, the girls in Perth had an effortless beauty; beach chic in every sense of the word. Day to day, they wore little to no make up.



Initially I would feel panicked if we went to the beach bare faced, but gradually moved to the pub as the day went on.. I'd find myself in a bar wearing flip flops and a beach dress with tangled sea salt hair and not a scrap of make up. It went against everything I knew.

A year later and I was wandering around the grocery store wearing a Bintang grubby men's vest, board shorts, no shoes on my feet and absolutely no make up. And I felt more confident, attractive and desirable than ever before. I'd go on a night out wearing tennis pumps and no make up. I felt free. I felt like I had tapped into this secret and being beautiful wasn't about how much effort you put in, it was feeling confident in my own skin. I can't lie, the tan helped a lot!




I used to read these interview with overtly sexy female celebrities, all claiming that they felt most attractive when in their joggers, lounging around the house without make up. I scoffed "bah! you can't fool me, vain beautiful liar". Until I experienced this 'enlightenment'. 

I came home to England and my friends didn't get it. I actually started to feel that make up was a big deception. That by wearing it, I was lying to the world about how I really look. One of my friends told me I was being rude by going out without make up! 




Then I got acne....



I no longer felt this smug confidence about my bare face. I felt ugly. I didn't just 'feel ugly'. I had an absolute conviction that I WAS ugly. Acne is a fail safe way of making anyone feel really low and insecure. 

No longer was I not wearing make up because I felt satisfied with my naturality, I became afraid of wearing make up. I didn't want to do anything to my skin that might make it worse. Even though I probably needed it (the acne was quite 'in your face' and the treatments only enhanced the redness), I shunned any make up. Even eye make up was a no no.. I didn't want people to wonder why, if I was wearing some make up, was I not covering my offensive face. 


I did try wearing make up for a night out... But the treatments made my skin so dry that foundation would cake and crumble, flaking right off my face. It actually just made me look worse. There are so many online tutorials for heavy duty spot coverage, but I couldn't master it without the flakes. I would give up, scrub it off, cry my eyes out and cancel on my friends. 

Having acne and not wearing make up wasn't 'difficult' because I felt like I didn't have the option to wear it anyway. I did feel like it affected how people perceived me, but in retrospect, I think it was a change in my own attitude which caused that.

My skin has been clear for about a year now and my relationship with make up has changed again. I'm not afraid of make up, and I don't feel like a liar and a fake when I do wear it. When I do wear make up, I look at it like art. I can change my face with the use of a few powders, like temporary plastic surgery! However I still feel more than comfortable going out bare faced, I don't cringe and avoid people I know... I'm not ashamed of how I really look! 

I think that in the end, we are all born with these faces. Girls are lucky, we have so many different makeup products to choose from that we have the freedom to improve the way that we look. But looks aren't everything. If we can't accept our young faces without make up, how will we deal when wrinkles inevitably mark the laughter and anguish of our past as we age? 

If I put a full face of make up on every day, I'd spend more than 1 week per year doing my make up... That's 1.5 years in a life time of just applying make up. Life is short, I have better things to spend my time doing than putting make up on my face and worrying about how everyone else perceives me. Having the freedom to choose to go without make up is a real treat. 




Showing make up free pictures of me to the world doesn't daunt me any more

I challenge you to go to work/college/school/university for 1 day without make up, please let me know in the comments section how it made you feel! Please feedback how you feel about going without make up! 


11 comments:

  1. I ALWAYS go out without make-up! ALWAYS. Yep, my face has blemishes and a little acne, but I'm comfortable i my skin! :)

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    1. I think it's really great that you feel so comfortable in your own skin, I think confidence and contentment is a really attractive quality!

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  2. Hi Abi! What a great story! I have dealt with acne for a long time and definitely know the feeling of not wanting to wear any makeup for fear of it irritating it or just making it look worse! My skin has also cleared up a great deal and I have been getting back into makeup a lot over the past year! I definitely have more days bare-faced than not and I agree that it is a liberating feeling to feel like you can walk out of the house without covering up any perceived "imperfections". Great post! :D

    Hill
    http://thebugthatfleeps.blogspot.com

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    1. Hi Hillary. Thank you for the feedback, I really appreciate it as a new blogger!
      I've perused your blog (and subscribed), you're a gorgeous lady! I do think that whilst it's nice to be able to make the best of our looks with make up, I think it's easy to overlook the importance of just liking ourselves as who we really are. My new years resolution for 2013 is to work as hard on my personality "imperfections" as I did on my aesthetic imperfections in 2012!

      Abi xx

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  3. Hi, I stumbled on your page and I hope you don’t mind me saying but my acne is so similar to what yours was and your skin looks incredible now so I was wondering if you could help me!?
    I am 19 years old and I spent all summer in Australia travelling. When I returned back to England my skin broke out like crazy! My whole lower face is covered in acne and although it is getting better, slowly, it is ruining my life and confidence, acne is all I think about. My Derm put me on:
    • tetracycline lymecycline
    • Dianette birth control
    • Epiduo (only at night)
    I have no idea what caused me to suddenly develop acne at 19; stress from uni, swapping products, my old birth control, lack of routine when travelling?!
    I feel so lost. I’ve been on this medication since 01.11.2012 and whenever I feel my acne is getting better it comes back :’( I currently have about 5 active pimples but the red marks make my skin look 100 times worse.
    How long did it take to see results from epiduo? The first month my skin was so red, flaking and burnt but it seems to of calmed down now. My makeup looks awful no matter what
    Can you recommend any tips for me please?! Were you left with any post inflammatory hyperpigmentation?
    Sorry for being a pain, I just don’t know what else to do! Thanks in advance, Sofie

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    1. I know that you've asked me this on acne.org so I hope you don't mind if we continue chatting via private message? I feel like you might be more comfortable with that! Speak to you later. xx

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  4. What a fantastic post, this will most definitely inspire and help acne sufferers. I am loving your blog! Followed xx

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    1. Thanks Catherine! Do you ever go without make up? xx

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  5. Hey Abi, My doctor also put me on doxycycline and epiduo (1X at night), i've been following this for 3 weeks now but i seem to be getting smaller pimples on my face apart from the ones that were already there and the skin under my mouth, right above my chin has turned darker - almost a grayish tone. The rest of my facial skin has also darkened in an unhealthy way. Did this happen to you?
    Thank you so much, Kiya

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  6. at one time, it was so hard to go without makeup...I sort of grew up wearing makeup...mom got me started wearing it in sixth grade, and it took me a long time to feel normal when not wearing it...I wore some brown eyeshadow, eyeliner...mascara was always a must...layers of it on the eyelashes...

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